tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413979849467676364.post8959573582610669955..comments2023-04-03T04:39:11.094-05:00Comments on A Put Together Mess: Part IIBraveheartshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13946260652538884702noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413979849467676364.post-58713017202189824302010-02-02T11:17:02.905-06:002010-02-02T11:17:02.905-06:00Maybe he can come to therapy with you again and yo...Maybe he can come to therapy with you again and you can tell him of this issue? In any case, I think you will be much better off for having approached this before you get married. Sometimes I feel very guilty that my husband didn't know what he was getting himself into (I couldn't help it, though, because I couldn't remember). Lucky for me, he still wanted me when he found out. <br /><br />Tell him what's scaring you in whatever way feels safe. He's been with you this long without having sex with you. I think that means he's a decent man and he must love you for yourself and not just what he can get from you. A man like that is so very, very valuable. They don't come a dime a dozen like that. Go ahead and tell him.Ethereal Highwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01120557764517618673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5413979849467676364.post-82160676942690931282010-02-02T09:37:59.048-06:002010-02-02T09:37:59.048-06:00I don't think this is manipulative at all. It ...I don't think this is manipulative at all. It is being honest with your fiance about your needs, which ARE important. <br /><br />I wonder whether it is possible to discuss the issue with him and come up with a solution together? That way it will feel less like you are manipulating the situation, and more like you are tackling the problem as a team?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com